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Sadly, anxiety and depression are often taboo subjects. And with the holidays right around the corner, these are relatable topics for many of us. Unfortunately, women especially just don’t seem to want to tell anyone that they suffer from either of these. I don’t know if they feel that they’ll look weak or less “put together,” but it’s a problem that soooooo many of us face, and often times, in silence. For some reason, we often feel the need to be this unrealistic superhero female who can juggle whatever life throws her way and do it all with a smile on her face and perfectly coifed hair. (And we all know that is a total load of crap.) . Personally, I think we should talk about it more openly and honestly with each other. I guaran-freaking-tee you that each of us has a friend (or two or three) who have feelings of anxiety and/or depression. And we could ALL benefit by discussing these feelings and getting them off our chests because it sure does help to know that you are not alone.
When I think back in time, I’ve probably ALWAYS had anxiety. I often experienced “nervous stomach issues” throughout junior high, high school, and college. But when it really showed itself in all its glory was when my twins were toddlers. Given that I didn’t have childcare help (by choice because I am a total control freak), I experienced multiple panic attacks as a stay at home mom (heart racing, feeling like I couldn’t breathe and my chest was collapsing) that led me to finally confess these situations to my doctor. She referred me to a therapist, with whom I just did NOT click, and I ultimately ended up on medication.
At first, I admit that I actually felt shame that I wasn’t strong enough to be a mom without the help of medication. But as my kids grew older, I realized that the medicine actually helped me to be a BETTER MOM. I had more patience and was able to enjoy the little moments with my twins, even if they could sometimes be overwhelming and frustrating. Now, I’m not saying it was all sunshine and rainbows once I found the proper medication. Lord knows, wrangling children and keeping a house put together are no easy tasks. However, I felt less like I was about to lose my ever-loving mind every day by 3 PM, and that sure was progress!
As I became more comfortable with the idea that my medication actually helped me, I was more open about sharing this information with people. However, I was actually surprised to find that so many people are very tight-lipped about it, even people who I know were getting help. And why is that??!! There is absolutely nothing to feel shame about when it comes to mental health! I seriously want to put that on a billboard and shout it out to all the world!!!
So let’s think of this post as a conversation starter. And also? Just remember – you are taking care of YOU if you seek help. And seeking help is just the first step. Reach out to someone, ANYONE if you are struggling. There is no need to struggle alone. Some days are going to be good, and some days are gonna be harder. But what I always try to remind myself is that this is just a bad day, not a bad life.
I’ll be adding more posts about this topic in the future, but I would love to hear from you. Do you experience anxiety and/or depression? Have you felt alone in those feelings? If so, how have you coped with it? Please tell me down below!
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